Chapter 14 – Remember Your Roots
You probably haven’t given that little scar on your abdomen much thought until retro low-rise jeans came onto the scene. That little twist of tummy tissue is a reminder you were at one time completely dependent on someone else for life, nourishment, and protection. Your independence began when the doctor (or your dad) clipped the umbilical cord. Since then, you’ve been connected through an emotional umbilical cord to those who have provided direction and nurturing throughout your years. If you’re moving away to school, it’s time for a little emotional surgery. Don’t worry, here’s the anesthetic.
The entire “moving away” process is bittersweet. You are eager to launch out on your own, yet there is a need for security, a desire to be mentored. You crave to prove yourself responsible for your own decisions, but you are overwhelmed with how much there is to learn about life. You feel prepared to handle new experiences with a certain level of confidence. There’s something down deep yearning to leave roots of established relationships and familiar territory behind.
You squint your eyes in puzzled disbelief as your parents sling a barrage of questions and statements your way that you determine to be condescending: “Do you have enough underwear? Will you be okay changing a tire on your own? Can you keep up with your laundry? Be careful in your selection of friends! Do you need more school supplies? What about taking an extra umbrella? Don’t forget to pack deodorant! You will try to eat your vegetables while you’re in college, won’t you?”
You think, “What’s the problem?!?! Don’t they trust me? Don’t they think I can handle it? Where do they get off telling me what to do?” Realize this through all you do: the invisible umbilical cord can stretch great distances. It can follow you wherever you go.
Topics covered:
- How to stay connected
- Visiting frequency
- Freedom vs. accountability
- Breaking barriers in family relationships
“Really think about the investment your parents, the government (through financial aid), donors (university scholarships) and you yourself are making in yourself to receive an education. This is a BIG deal.” – Jill, East Texas Baptist University
“You see how much your family means to you while you are away from home.” – Citlalic, The Catholic University of America
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